Single and over 40? Still looking for Mr. Right?

Well, it seems that I am not only leaving my 40’s soon-gasp!, but am also still looking for the illusive “Mr. Right”.  I have a terrible feeling that when I was in my 20’s, Mr. Right was sent to me, however, since I was shallow, I didn’t recognize him- he wasn’t “perfect in every way”.  I was sent a kind man, one who would get me the moon if I had asked for it, but oh I don’t know, he smoked, he didn’t have a great body, was too shy….  I know, I know, how shallow.  Did I not mention I was young and shallow?  It makes for a bad combination.  I was attractive, great strong body, the best shape of my life, active, a risk-taker, lol, not even truly ready to settle down.

We always say “if I had known then what I know now…..”, but would it?  Just how different would things be?  It doesn’t matter to me in the grand scheme of things.  I made my choices, had to live with them, and the long-term consequences that came along with them.

Now that I am older and, unfortunately, in the playing field with all these beautiful younger women with gorgeous bodies, I see that I am truly in trouble now.  My body isn’t as cute as it used to be, and what I find hot….well, let’s just say that my daughter would be horrified if I turned into a cougar.  Things are tough now.  I am wiser, and I can see the mistakes of my past.  I discounted many of the qualities which are truly important or endearing.  I have joined thousands of other (younger) women on dating sites in order to run into a kind, decent, and fairly attractive man.  I haven’t given up that God has actually created THE man for me, but I have to ease up and although I do not have to lower my standards, I need to be able to see, with God’s help, the “beauty” of the right man for me.

I can’t let him get away from me again.


About babybear65

I am a Hispanic single woman, born and raised in the military lifestyle. Went on to become a veteran and an Army spouse. Throughout my life I have struggled with relationships, to include the most important, the one with my Father, God. I am currently working as a high school counselor, but am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and studying to take the Addictions Counselor exam for my LCDC. I want to help, encourage, and maybe through my many mistakes, help others, men and women.
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